Ten Things Not to Say to Someone with Anorexia

I used to hear, “you weigh too much/you’re too muscular to have anorexia” when I was really sick. I was an athlete, though, and was OBSESSED with making sure I could keep doing my sport ’cause it was my escape. It was really hurtful when people would say stuff like that to me ’cause I was very sick and it made me feel challenged to “do better” about not eating.

Rose with Thorns

Mario eating food Mario eating a S’More

While slipping into anorexia, I was rewarded with compliments from family, friends, and strangers. Our society associates losing weight with health and happiness. However, eating disorders show that this is often not the case.

Instead of blaming those who made unhelpful comments to me, I want to make a list of common but detrimental phrases people often say to someone struggling with anorexia. One of the main things to remember is to not focus on someone’s weight. If you feel the need to compliment a friend, affirm a characteristic that you admire or something that he or she has done recently. Otherwise, if you really how that person looks, then choose another aspect of his or her appearance like an outfit, hairdo, or earnest smile. There are so many other ways to encourage someone besides mentioning pounds lost.

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TW: Sexual Abuse: RAINN’s Online Hotline

Rape Abuse & Incest National Network has just opened a new hotline that I think would be really helpful to a lot of people. It’s 100% free and anonymous. You log on and can chat with a trained counselor live.

Yesterday, I got pretty triggered. I don’t talk about it here but I have a history of sexual abuse. The feature that RAINN came out with recently would have helped but I wasn’t in the headspace to remember it. I also have severe phone anxiety so the voice line wasn’t something that would have made me feel better.

So, I’m posting this even though it might be a bit off topic to my blog in hopes that it might help someone who needs it.


Body Image Visualized

This is how I see myself:

How my fiance sees me:

I never really realized how wrongly I see myself until I did this experiment.

Study: Eating Disorders Common in Older Women

I just read a news article about a study about eating disorders in older women. The study found that 13% of women 50 or older struggle with eating disorders, some for the first time in their life, and it also found that 62% of those surveyed said their weight/shape had a negative impact on their life. This seriously debunks the myth that eating disorders only effect younger women.