Open letter to a loved one in an abusive relationship

CW: domestic abuse. This post is lovely and I felt it was really important that as many people as possible see it.

Disrupting Dinner Parties

Dear loved one,

This is a letter for you, the person in our lives who is in an abusive relationship. You are our sister and our brother, the girl we went to college with, the friend with whom we went on that epic road trip, our coworker, our parent, our past self, our future child. The abuse you’re living though may be emotional, sexual, or physical. You abuser may be a boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, parent, friend, or some other relationship to you. Maybe you’ve spoken with us about your abuse, maybe you’re not yet comfortable sharing it, or maybe you’re not even comfortable labeling the treatment you endure with the “A” word. This letter is to you, the one we love who is enduring abusive behavior.

There are some things we want you to know, and the first, the most important, is this:

You are loved.

I love you, and…

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TW: Sexual Abuse: RAINN’s Online Hotline

Rape Abuse & Incest National Network has just opened a new hotline that I think would be really helpful to a lot of people. It’s 100% free and anonymous. You log on and can chat with a trained counselor live.

Yesterday, I got pretty triggered. I don’t talk about it here but I have a history of sexual abuse. The feature that RAINN came out with recently would have helped but I wasn’t in the headspace to remember it. I also have severe phone anxiety so the voice line wasn’t something that would have made me feel better.

So, I’m posting this even though it might be a bit off topic to my blog in hopes that it might help someone who needs it.